“Congratulations, you are going to be a dad.” These words are soothing to many ears. However, these words also indicate that your life will be completely altered? Though exciting, being a dad first-time dad is not an easy thing. It gets even tougher if you don't get ready for it. How can a man prepare to be a first-time father? Here are five important things that every dad should do in preparation for the arrival of the baby
1. Accepting that things will change
The very first step to preparing to be a first-time father is accepting that your life will never be the same again. Your free time will reduce significantly, and you will have to consider your child before making any decision. If you thought that you can simply squeeze your child in your tight schedule think again. The truth is that from the moment the baby arrives, you will have to make your schedule around your baby’s schedule not the other way round. Your sex life will change, so will your relationship with your partner. All these are things you need to accept rather than fight.
2. Attend parenting classes
You will have to learn some things about parenting. Where else can you learn this than in parenting classes! The information offered in these classes is very useful and especially for first-time parents. Here you learn how to handle the delicate baby in the right way, change diapers, and bathe the baby among others. Believe it or not, all this will come in handy when the baby is born. Reading parenting books, magazines and journals will also provide you with tons of useful information.
3. Prepare financially
Your finances will change with the arrival of the baby. There will be medical bills to be settled, clothes to be bought and other baby related things to be catered for. If your partner has been working, she may have to take an unpaid leave or quit her job altogether to take care of the baby. You may also have to hire someone to take care of the baby while you go to work or even move into a larger house. You do not want to get caught financially unprepared. The burden that comes with it is intolerable. If you can, consult a financial planner. You will get guidance on how to handle your finances efficiently.
4. Helping out with the house chores
Taking care of the child can be tiring. The truth is that by the end of the day, your wife will be probably too tired to lift even a spoon. You need to help her with the house chores as well as taking care of the baby. You might have to cut on those boys’ night outs and get home early. Your wife will appreciate all the help she can get. Additionally, getting home early allows you to spend some quality time with your family.
5. Have people to talk to
Establishing a social support system right before your child is born is important. You will have people to share with your fears. These could be either your friends, family or a specialist. Additionally, talk with your partner about how your life will change with the arrival of the child. Together you can figure out possible ways on how to cope with the changes. This will make life easier for everybody.
Being a first-time dad is not easy. However, if you physically and psychologically prepared, it will be much easier to adjust to being a first-time father.